The other night, whilst the b/f was busy (and therefore could not request that we watch something else), I settled down to my ‘series linked’ SATC episodes. It was the one where Carrie turns 35 and Samantha has a thing for a priest. B/f joined me as Samantha announced that she fancied ‘Friar F*ck’, which immediately peaked his interest. Excellent, I am free to watch this episode without complaint.
The SATC crew attend an engagement party where everyone but them was coupled up. That led Miranda to say that she couldn’t bear for the loved up women at the party to coo to her, “Ah don’t worry, I’m sure there’s someone out there for you.”
“As if” says the b/f, “do women really say that kind of thing to each other.”
Hello! Have you just joined western society? Do you not know any women? Yes women say that kind of patronising, degrading, irritating comment to singles ALL THE TIME! Ahhhhh!
A friend told me just before she got married, “I know you’re going to find someone special.” We were 21. Oh thanks for that reassurance because that’s been playing on my mind a lot lately, what with the biological clock and all.
I find it hard to know what to say to such statements. It’s a typical back handed compliment. Do you snipe back and make the other person feel bad? Or do you just nod and smile, then obsess about what sparked such a comment. Perhaps you have ‘Desperately Seeking Soul-Mate’ written across your forehead?
My best friend says the worst, which she got from a man when she was single, was “why don’t you have a boyfriend?” Again, what are you expected to say? Because I’m emotionally fragile? I have B.O and no one finds me attractive?
I nodded all the way through that SATC episode, agreeing with the girl’s analysis of the supposedly ‘hideous’ state called singledom. The b/f shook his head unable to believe the level of neurosis that women give each other. Even though I left the single parade a few years ago, patronizing remarks passed by coupled up women still sting.
Don’t even get me started on the coupled-up women that assume your single status equals boyfriend snatcher (the subject of a different episode, of course). God damn Candace Bushnell hits the nail on the head.
I know it’s been said a thousand times, but boys, the mystery to womanhood is unlocked in SATC. Watch if you want to know our secrets.
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